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Why Marriage is a very Bad Idea

Jan 5th, 2012

by Tenga Support.

The ladies are so going to hate us for this article but there are many truths to support the notion that marriage is a very bad idea from the men’s point of view. We are not saying this to improve our Tenga sales, we just want to present an objective view about this subject!
In fact, if there is any goodness from a conventional marriage, the benefit is largely for the sake of the human society and improving the statuses of women in general - at the expense of the men.
Of course, if you are already married, then there is little you can do about it except make the most of it provided you are really happy. If you are single, seeing someone special, or active on the dating scene, perhaps you want to re-look the idea of tying the knot, ’till death do you part’.
Based on a New York and Chicago survey, the following are the top five reasons why getting married is a very bad idea.

1. Marriage is an artificial and unnatural concept
A famous philisopher called marriage “a monumental mistake with disastrous and life-changing consequences”. It is said that God invented sex while the Priests invented marriages.
Many people sees marriage as a contract or transaction between two indivduals or families. The reality is that love and sex are noble concepts while marriage is a man-made idea.  The marriage vow is binding and usually conjures the idea of being shackled and chained up!
From society’s viewpoint, the married couple is a single entity and the actions (or behavior) of one is linked to the other person. In other words, his assets became her assets and vice versa. Not that it is a bad thing since there will probably be a larger pool of wealth. The only problem is when the party’s over and you want to head seperate ways, that’s when you realise that what was put together is now hard to divide.

2. You MIGHT really regret it
There is also the danger that you may not know the other person well enough. There is an old Chinese idiom that states that ‘it takes at least four seasons to really know a person’. So the person you are marrying may not have been one hundred percent truthful. Seriously, there is a high chance that you had not been that honest with you spouse too correct, so how could you expect the same from the other person.

“Ever since we got married, my wife wants to change me.
She got me to stop drinking and to quit smoking, stop staying out the entire night. She taught me how to dress well, enjoy fine arts and music, and how to invest in the stock market,” said the man.
“Sounds like you’re bitter because she changed you so drastically,” remarked his friend.
“I’m not bitter. Now that I’m so improved, she just isn’t good enough for me.”

Maybe those information seemed irrelevant when you were dating, but it can be major issues that cannot be swept under the carpet. So how do you reconcile those new information about your spouse now that they have come into the light?
People change overtime. You and your spouse may gradually learn to see things differently, or develop new perspectives and viewpoints as a result of new experiences, ideas or thoughts. The danger is that both of you may also have new insights about your life together - especially when there will be more opportunities to learn more about yourself, your preferences, your dreams and idea about that perfect mate you have always wanted. You can’t predict the future, so why make unrealistic promises to be together “till death do us part”?
3. Marriage will kill your sex life
When marriage settles in and you became comfortable with each other, sex may risk becoming a chore, or has became too predictable. It may reduce gradually to eventually it became non-existent. It is not uncommon for long-time married couple to have sex only on specific ocassions like Birthdays, Valentine’s Day or Christmas. And because of the vow you made, it became impossible to even make friends with attractive individuals without activating that jealous monster in your spouse, let alone try to bed them!
So here’s the dilemna, you are bound to have sex with only your partner who may not be sexually as active or desirable, or finds you that desirable anymore. Or that the stress of daily life takes a toll on your intimacy, what can you do?
4. Marriage robs you of your freedom and personal liberty
“In our part of the world, where monogamy is in force, to marry means to halve one’s rights and to double one’s duties.” ~ Arthur Schopenhaue
After marriage you will become accountable to each other in terms of personal movement from place to place, social intereactions, time with your friends, time alone, or time to indulgence in your favourite past-time and hobby, household chores, career choice, financial commitments, purchasing decisions, and so on.
In other words, after marriage, you find yourself at the mercy of a master whom you have to report to. As a slave, you are obliged to update your spouse on your whereabouts and detailed activities.
Unless you both share the same idea about meeting other people or clubbing, you may find that you no longer have that carefree lifestyle you once took for granted. Suddenly you realise that you have responsibilities and duties. Not an issue if that is what you want, but are you sure that is what your spouse really want to?
5. You have a 50% chance of getting divorced
Let’s face it: there are only two certainties in life and marriage is not one of them. While death and taxes are inevitable, there is always a chance that your marriage may end before you know it.
An affair, committed by you or your spouse can spell the end. Let’s not kid ourselves: marriage life is hard work: you have to deal with the in-laws, the children, career, and the stress of everyday life. So is it a wonder they have so many marriage or relationship counsellors, and sex therapists? Maybe this is also the reason why Tenga was invented to help ease the sexual tensions from differing ideas about how much sex is enough for him?

Question: What is the number one cause of divorce?
Answer: Marriage

Rememer too, that a divorce is not only complicated and messy, it can also be expensive because you risk losing all your hard earned assets, the social stigma, and even religious complications.
Above all, the guys need to consider and ask himself if getting married for the sake of sex is really worth it. Especially since we have Tenga from www.tengatango.com to take care of all his sexual needs!